A blog about infertility, adoption,and adoption loss which has finally led to a beautiful miracle who was worth smiling for."Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future."Proverbs 31:25

Our Adoption Timeline

Most people don't know what it takes to adopt a child. They think they do because they've seen such things on t.v., but really they have no clue. I know because I was one of them.  I created this from a blog that I had been keeping on myspace. 

Feb. 1st 2008: We were looking for the right agency for us. We had 3 top runners. We had an appointment to meet with someone from our first choice.

Feb. 15th: We had met with that agency and decided that they were not for us. We just didn't jive with them.

Feb. 21st: I made contact with our second choice and they were unwilling to meet with us. Many agencies want to send you an information packet (which is great) and include the initial application. Application fees can range from $50-$200. We had already decided that we weren't paying anyone anything until we met with them and chose them. So, second choice was out also.

March 29th: I posted about the meeting we had with choice #3. It was a great meeting. We hit it off with our social worker or "adoption specialist" and decided to work with them (Catholic Social Services of Southern Illinois).

April 10th: The first step was filling our miles of paperwork and getting finger printed so we could get our background checks. FBI background checks no less... And we had to get TB tests.

April 18th: We had another meeting to take our marriage assessment test. That was brutal.

Fast-forward to June

June 21st: I talked about the meeting with the marriage therapist that we had to have. We had to be evaluated to make sure we had a happy marriage and one that could sustain adding a child.

June 27-28th: We took our foster classes.

July 24th: We had our homestudy. I turned in the remainder of our paperwork, our "dear birthmom letter", and our photo album.

August 8th: I get the call that everything has finally been approved and that we are officially a waiting couple.

August 16th: I blog about taking the phone into the shower with me. I was really worried that I would miss our call to be parents.

September 28th: I find out that a couple from our foster training class was chosen. This was the first of many couples that have been chosen instead of us. With each "not us" placement we move higher up on the list. However the list is just for cases when the birthmom doesn't want to choose the couple.

Nov. 1st: We get our foster license in the mail.

Nov. 13th: I write about our new decision to network (send our letter and picture to doctors, hospitals, etc.) and that we would be open to a bi-racial child.

Dec. 25th: It twas a not so merry Christmas to me. I'm pitiful.

In January 2009 I start blogging about other things.

Feb. 5: I mention that waiting is getting easier. That its not driving me sooooo crazy anymore.

March 29: We are #6 on the list.

August 8, 2009: Waiting for a placement for one year. I begin going to therapy shortly after.

•We are now open to an African American baby.

March 2010: Our profile has been chosen by a birthmom. But, she chooses another couple instead.

May 2010: We've been waiting 21 months. We are # 4 on the list.

July 2010: Find out that our agency has allowed more than 20 couples take a place on "the list".

August 8, 2010: Been waiting for two years.  Wishing that I could still afford the therapy.  It's getting harder to walk past the cigarette isle in walmart.

April 29, 2011: We are matched!!!  Kmom comes into our lives and soon after we find out that we are having a GIRL!  In blog land I'm calling her El.  We waited 2 years and 9 months before being matched.

July 30, 2011: El is born @ 3:50 a.m. She was 6lb 4oz and 18 3/4 inches long.  She was beautiful!

August 2, 2011: We head home empty handed after a nightmare 72 hour wait.  Kmom decided to parent. 

September 4, 2011: We meet Ella Grace.  She is so sick.  We know that she needs someone better than us. 

October 5, 2011: Olive is born at 5:22 a.m.  She weighed 6lbs 10oz and was 19 inches long.  N called me about her around 11:00 a.m.  Mama T picked us around 2:00 p.m.

October 6, 2011: Nana and I go to see Olive.  We care for her in the hospital our first night.  Was my 30th Birthday!  Hubby arrived the next day.  Again we stay with her.

October 8, 2011: Olive becomes ours to keep.  Mama T signed surrenders around 10:30 a.m.  We bring our beautiful daughter home.  We waited exactly 3 years 2 months.

Post Placement Visits: Once a month until Finalization, which is taking place hopfully in April or possibly May 2012.

May 15, 2012: ADOPTION DAY! Olive is legally ours!  Finally, we are done! 

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